Letting Go of the Old You — Identity Shifting 101
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Letting Go of the Old You — Identity Shifting 101
By Robyn Milan
Rych Milan Co.
Here’s something nobody really tells you about leveling up:
Before the glow-up… comes the grief.
Because letting go of your old self?
That’s a real loss.
Even if she was people-pleasing.
Even if she was stuck in survival mode.
Even if she tolerated less than she deserved.
She was still you. And releasing her can feel scary—even when you know it’s necessary.
🧠 Identity Shifting is More Than a Glow-Up
This isn’t just about changing your hair or buying a new journal.
It’s about becoming her—the version of you who doesn’t flinch at her own power.
But to do that?
You’ve got to shed:
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Old habits that kept you small
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Relationships that no longer reflect your worth
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Thought patterns rooted in fear, not freedom
You can’t hold onto the old you and expect to walk in your next level.
🌱 Your New Identity Requires a New Standard
When I started my own identity shift, I realized:
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I couldn’t keep explaining myself to people committed to misunderstanding me
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I couldn’t keep entertaining energy that drained me
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I couldn’t keep clinging to struggle just because it was familiar
And truthfully? That shift was lonely at first.
But it was also liberating.
Because every time I said no to what no longer fit, I was saying yes to me.
🔥 This is Your Permission Slip to Reinvent Yourself
You don’t owe anyone the old version of you—not even your past self.
You are allowed to:
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Evolve
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Outgrow
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Reinvent
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Rewrite
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Reintroduce yourself
As many times as it takes.
Letting go isn’t the end.
It’s the invitation into your most aligned season yet.
✍🏽 Journal Prompts:
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What parts of my old identity feel heavy or expired right now?
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Who is the woman I’m becoming—and what does she no longer tolerate?
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What daily rituals can support my shift into this new version of me?